Are you looking for tips on how to avoid falling in love be it with a married man, a jerk, with your best friend, too fast or a girl or your crush? We have all you need you to know.
I have never understood all the hype associated with falling in love. Because for me, there is no such thing as love. It is just a very expensive fantasy. A fantasy that can destroy you, shatter your self-esteem and kill all your dreams.
When you fall in love, it means your happiness is dependent on the actions of another person. Don’t you think this is just exposing yourself too much? Imagine a scenario where the source of your happiness wakes up one day and say, ‘I love you no more.’ Most of us have received that message and I don’t have to explain to you how it feels. Not many people can rise from such heartbreaks because we lose part of our soul.
But we can’t just avoid falling in love, at least that is what many people say. Because you want to share your life with someone. Because spending time together and going to those romantic dinners is cool and shows that you are a normal human being. But I disagree with all these unfounded lies. For me to love is to risk being loved in return and you can be very happy without being dependent on someone else.
I am going to show you some ways on how not to fall in love and still be very happy. I must be honest with you because it is not as easy as it looks but it is possible. It can be done.
Focus on your dreams
What do you really want in life? Is it love, a great career, finishing up your studies or starting a new business venture. Answer the what and work towards achieving it. Dedicating more time towards your dreams will make you not to feel lonely and give you the urge to find someone. The good thing about falling in love with your dreams is that there is no day your business will wake up and tell you ‘I love you no more.’ Your education will be loyal to you for better for worse.
Isaac Newton, one of the most influential scientists of all time has no record of ever having fallen in love in his life. He dedicated all his time in his dreams and in the end, he discovered the three laws of motion. This is testimony that one can achieve great things if they focus and avoid other distractions like being swept off your feet with someone who could be your friend or just a jerk.
Lady Gaga, the American singer and one of the most influential women in the world said, “some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you are wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake and tell you it doesn’t love you anymore”. Chase your dreams jealously.
Stop watching romantic movies
Romantic movies create an imaginary world called ‘Romantic Realism’ This is a place where everything is so fine for two people in love. The movies, romantic novels, and songs frame our minds to believe that there is nothing as sweet as falling in love. It is hard to find a movie that depicts the negative effects of love.
As a single person, watching romantic movies will make you feel disabled. Then you will feel the urge to find someone. If you want to stop falling in love then avoid these movies, novels, and songs because they will corrupt your mind.
Watch movies on science fiction. They will trigger your imagination and perhaps you may find something worthier of doing with your life.
Find the fault in every person
No human being is perfect, that is a fact. The reason why we fall in love with people is that we overlook their imperfections and focus on their perfections. But what about if you don’t want to fall for them, simple focus on their imperfections. I know this is weird because we have been taught to have eyes that see only the best in people but sometimes that may not be in our best interests.
Look out for those little flaws in their appearance, posture, their intellect, hair, voice. The fact that no one is perfect means finding flaws is an easy task. This is the best and easiest way on how you can avoid falling in love.
Social gatherings are a no-go zone
Yes, avoid those weddings and prom nights. You don’t want to go to a place where people have a totally different perception to love. During prom nights, everyone wants to have a date, so what the hell will you be doing there if you don’t want to hook up? You will feel sorry for yourself and think that there is something totally wrong with you.
As a by the way, some people believe that being single is a disability. The truth that it is a disability if you keep on mingling with people who are dating. Truth is that behind those fake smiles is a person who is very afraid, afraid of being single.
Do not spend too much time on social media
Social media is a form of mass media with great psychological effects on the users. The effects are worse than those of the traditional mass media. You should avoid Instagram, Facebook because this is the place most people post about their ‘wonderful love life.’ This may be detrimental to your course of not falling for anyone including those married men and women you look fantastic.
Another issue is that you don’t want to be seeing pictures of your crush on IG. It will be very hard to resist them.
Ever heard about emotionally unavailable men or women? These are people who don’t show any emotions. It is a very important art that you should try to master. You can’t really keep a relationship if you are selfish because everything is always about you and you don’t care what the other person feels.
You can just decide to spend more time with yourself, perfect that singing talent of yours. Never let the feelings of other people affect you and I assure you that you will never fall in love.
The fact that you don’t want to fall in love does not mean that you should not have a social life. You should spend time with friends and family who value and respect your decision not to fall in love.
You should also understand that true love exists and when it comes, don’t just push it away because you want to prove a point. I hope that one day, this moment will come for you.